i think i'm ready...

for open mic.

sooo...i decided,

i'd rather stay home.

gnawing on the bones isn't just permitted, it's encouraged!

thank you, Michael!  loved it!

someone asked me what i thought about kim kardashian...

>: /   do i look like that would be something i would be into???

bwahaaa! ! !

"We are experiencing very high traffic. Please try again shortly. Thank you."

oh, george!

"When you're born, you get a ticket to the freak show. When you're born in America, you get a front-row seat." ~george carlin

<3

finally!

hawaii house sale closes today!  11/18/11!

wish i could have held on to kaapuni loop, but oh...well...

now, onward and forward!

Humility and Leadership

Snatched!

"News Flash – the phrase ”humble leadership” is not an oxymoron. While many people immediately conjure-up an image of the ever so confident, bombastic extrovert without an ounce of humility as the picture of what constitutes a real leader, nothing could be further from the truth. As my wife has always said, “Those who talk the most usually have the least to say.” While feigned humility is the height of insincerity, authentic humility is the most sincere form of confidence and strength. Leaders need to understand that being authentically humble humanizes them, allows them to build stronger trust bonds, and engenders confidence & loyalty from peers and subordinates alike. In today’ post I’ll share my thoughts on the value of learning to become a humble leader…

It’s been said that life is a long lesson in humility. As a leader, the sooner you come to grips with your humility the better leader you’ll become. Over the years I have come to believe that “having class” is synonymous with demonstrating a penchant for humility over bravado. True leaders possess a quiet confidence that attracts attention like a magnet. It is the genuine nature of their subtle & quiet charisma/presence, and not the decibel level of their rhetoric that draws you in. True self-confidence is reflected in a person’s deeds and actions, and not in their ability to boast. One of the worst things a leader can do is to let their ego write checks their talent can’t cash…

Humility is actually the trait that magnifies all other positive attributes. Without humility all of a leader’s other strengths become diminished if not invisible. It’s been said that greatness lies not in trying to be somebody, but in trying to help somebody. Humility also happens to be the surest sign of authenticity in someone who claims to be a servant leader. Is it possible to be a leader without being humble? Sure it is…but it is much, much more difficult, rarely sustainable, and leaders who lack humility are always called into question with regard to motives and agendas.

When you think of a true leader do you envision someone who displays a quiet confidence or a blatant arrogance? While a reserved attitude of humility can often be misinterpreted as a sign of weakness, if you’ve ever negotiated with a truly confident person who is authentically humble, you’ll find that their resolve is often much greater than the feigned confidence of the arrogant. While hubris can be a needed trait to call upon at times, to rely solely upon it as the foundation of your leadership style just doesn’t work. It was C.S. Lewis who said: “Humility is not thinking less of yourself, but rather thinking about yourself less.” Simply put, humble leaders recognize and value the contributions of others in lieu of self-promotion.

The truth of the matter is that few things have inspired and motivated me over the years like the quiet confidence and humility of great leaders. I would much rather listen to the self-deprecating humor of a confident person making fun of themselves than the mean spirited attacks of an arrogant person waged at someone else’s expense. More importantly, I would much rather work for, or along side of, the understated than the overstated. Those professionals that have self respect, and demonstrate a true respect for others regardless of their station in life, are much more likely to be successful over the long-term than those that use the tactics of disrespect to humiliate and intimidate.

Contrary to popular folklore, it’s important to note that nice guys & gals don’t finish last. Leaders that display authentic humility have broader spheres of influence, attract better talent, engender more confidence, and earn more loyalty and respect than do those leaders who rely solely upon their chutzpa and their ability to brandish their bravado. If what you’re seeking is lasting relationships, long-term success, and a better quality of life (in and out of the workplace) then you’ll be well served to forgo the pompous acts of the arrogant, and substitute the humility and quiet confidence displayed by true leaders."

birthday bunnies

makes me smile everytime i read this!

great turn out at walk to fight alzheimer's in spite of the brutal weather

birthday flowers!

Lady Liberty Birthday Party at Bill's 102811!

i couldn't be with a man...

who is more melodramatic than me.

give it up, dude!  it's been months!

fuck, ya!

finally,

everything is clicking in place

rants...

1.  who are these people and what are they doing on my fb page?

2.  i would have thought people that were closest to me (except Gerald-he donated 1st) AND our own family or Don's kids would have donated and helped before others, but it's not proving to be the case.  i've raised $860 mostly from mere acquaintances and even people i don't even know.  the closest ones...maybe they're just procrastinators.

1st day!

on my own!

she did it!

she's cut the cord!  liberated and free!  yey!

wow!

people are actually checking out your shit.

grays! yeooow!

1st day

moonlighting for Dixon.  :)

high 60?!

brrrrrr!!

OWS

In a time when things seem so hopeless for a lot of people, this bid for global change--how big it's getting, how large the reach has spread, young & old, how touching and inspirational.

Definitely tops the list of anything that's ever moved me in my lifetime. 

God love everyone who supports, participates, believes, has taken time out of life and their work and away from family, has travelled, has been mocked, has lost "friends" in support of this movement and effort to change the world. 

not only are you having to fight your battles...

you worry about mine too!

and then i gotta be a girl and get all 'what about me, what about my needs?'.

good not to be driven to psycho when it's 1143 and he's still working.

peace and clarity are welcomed good feelings.

feelin a lot of love.

so it's happened...

i've lost at least one fb friend over "The Occupation"!

bye bye JZ!  gonna miss you!

craaaaamps!

with side effects of the bubblies! Day 4. >:/

burlington, vt

i see stars!

don't really understaaaaand!

weekend trip!

marchiiiiing!

Sent me off to the rally like a kid being dropped off on 1st day of school!

occupy jersey city 100611

yeah, why is that?

patrick's christmas gift...

CHECK! 

gotta get the sunglasses, too!

today's weight

130#

Dr appt

if it looks like a duck,

walks like a duck,
quacks like a duck,

it's a fucking duck!

~

dreams...

born a day apart,

but couldn't be any more different.

~

how do you have the talk,

when everything is all good and sweet?

and to think what kind of ideas i've had in my head the last few days!

FB steal of the day...

"to love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance" - Oscar Wilde

~

BBQ weekend!

what will it take?

hypnotism, maybe?

~

ha ha!

she calls it "behaving like a caveman",

i call it "acting like a dick"!

~

she's got cable!!!

newly shared..."strange you never knew"

and then there were 2...

and i have 6 months to work on my heart.

~

Nothing wrong

with having a plan B!

>:/

how the heck do i use up all 10G of my data plan by the 8th?

that's certainly not acceptable and the reason for the lack of blog entries. waiting for the internet like dial up ain't.the.move!

so she's breaking down and getting cable! this thursday!

then maybe, i will revisit my tmobile plan, coz they're data plans suck!

oh...was a purple.viking.night. so much to ponder...

~

it's pointless

to say anything.

~

labor day weekend in delaware

it donned on me after spending 2 days with their family, how private autumn is. not in a rude or antisocial way, just private and personal way.

and how her behavior reminded me of maja.

i understand him a little better.

....

then tonite, dinner with haz. "i knew there was something you wanted to tell me".

sounds like it's gonna be an interesting 6 months...

she's right! stop being so predictable!



~

was invited to a Jets game with Marty...

um, no thanks!

but Gerald is going instead. i wouldn't want to be in the middle of that!

thanks, Trrriiisss!

~

sweet, pleasant surprise visit at work today.

:)

and another kickball evening at LSP. this time, with Margo.

good for me!

~

happy birthday, gina! fun times!

great weekend!

irene media hype was more bark than bite.

took advantage of a quiet weekend and enjoyed just doing nothing.

birthday party for gina was fun! G mentioned it at 3 times the next day.

no-water-like-vodka-drinking....and that's a good thing!

was satisfied on the bumper-car-front.

3 good ones!

~

i'm cool with that!

reallyyy!

'cause at some point, i just don't give a sh1z,,,

~

love bug

"the physical manifestations are extreme", a chemical cocktail of neurotransmitters-phenethylamine, dopamine, norepinephrine and oxytocin-are at work serving as an amphetamine, elevating mood, keeping senses on high alert, affecting the brain about the same way as...smoking crack!

kapow!

~

FB steal of the day...

"If you don't have a purpose for your relationship, if you don't have a palce that you're going, something that you want to accomplish, something that you want to do, you can really get lost in the murk of the journey." ~Will Smith

~

um, here's the thing...

you have a list and you need to stay true to it.

~

so i've decided...

this isn't going to be a long term thing.

on another note, my bra is especially uncomfortable today.

~

sat night, trish's bday party

when too much alcohol is involved...

it's never pretty.

one-of-those-gotta-say-something-about-it kind of mornings.

wasn't pretty.

~

guitar dreams

went from bad to worse.

what the wtfhfj!

~

disturbed...

woke up and was consumed with a lot of negative thoughts this morning. had to break out the stin hansen recordings.

shhooo! get out of there!

~

fucking shit!

tiningnan ang account ngayon ay wala ng pera! ahhhh!

maja to the rescue!

~

awesome weekend!

easy on food.

easy on alcohol.

fun.

music.

we even squeezed in some work.

just pure enjoyment of each other.

and just enough time.

~

Asbury Park

listening to recorded guitar practices

is very painful.

~

clash of the titans

the worst thing you can do to a driver is walk away.

the worst thing you can do to an amiable is confront.

hardly no exchanges for almost 2 days.

good thing you redeemed yourself and apologized, 'coz you were getting super fired!

~

torn...

to leave or not to leave?

i'm kinda tired of it and wish i could land a marketing gig with the boys.

ye, i want herrrrr job!

~

reminder to self

music can always manage to make things jussssssst a little better.

now if she can only get over the suck stage.

~

i really, really, really, really....really...

need guitar camp!

~

guitar dreams?

i'm stuck on suck!

~

today, 'twas merely a slight brush with my senses

~

like sleeping

with one eye half open.

and never getting too comfortable.

~

a creature of paradox

nothing is as seems

~

has become

de-synthesized

~

flashbacks

and teardrops.

~

she's happy!

gmak last night
and again this morning.

and can't hardly think of anything else today. this always happens...

so after fight between focus & distraction, she's throwing in the towel and calling it a day.

~

so much for celebrating 1st night without the aussies

'nother night passed out on the couch!

ugh!

~

i don't think i despice anything else more...

than an old married man fucken around on his wife.

~

that's sales!

2 deals...dead!
-19E buyer backed out without explanation at all
-Manhattan buyers who I thought were going to make an offer on a perfect condo I found for them made an offer on something in the City.

:(

sleepy!

yawn!

~

blue

~

busy day!

-finish cleaning house
-showings from 1015-1130
-start cooking
-friends!

no church today, though! :(

~

ended up cancelling cooking. yury was sick. just erin and amy. we decided to make it an outing. liberty state park, looked at houses, then bowling/bbq/music even at the barrow mansion. fun!

~

taken from Reyna's fb wall post...

"if you don't call me all day...when you don't text me all day, i understand. when i stop loving you, i hope you understand"

~

eyes wide open,

and cautiously straddling the fence

~

i'd love to...

take on an extreme comedy show and laugh 'til my side hurts.

even by myself...i'd do it!

~

quality time with Jen and kids

always great times. love them!

diet...day 6

breakfast - fruit & cottage cheese
merienda - filipino sugar bread (not good)
lunch - kare kare with rice
snacks - tons of chocolate

seeing Jen tonight. will more than likely involve wine. :/

there was a time when...

i would get so bent out of shape when i don't hear from him or he doesn't return a text right away. he's at the MLS & All Star soccer game with the Aussies. he's not called.

am i more mature, or do i just GET him now?

i don't doubt he loves me. oh,the.man.loves.me! he bought me a fucking car! he's been controlling his drinking, and he's been really, really sweet.

>>>but what to do about the drinking?<<<

we both have our own demons. we have this co-dependency with each other.

this time, i don't feel neglected or disrespected or lonely or unwanted.

it's been positive.

but there are still issues.

yet still i'm cautiously optimistic...

~

diet day 5

not good. not.good!

started with danishes...2 of them!
salad from A&P
then TONS of chocolate!
and of course, a drink in the evening.

what can i do to make up for all of that?

~

those immature little tantrums from an old man

i remember! tells me i made the right decision not to have wasted the time "talking" last Sunday.

be gone!

~

my punishment...

he's no longer a fan! awwwww..............for the upteenth time!

~

diet...day 4

breakfast - fruit & cottage cheese
snack - white cheddar popcorn 290 calories
lunch - spinach salad with fish
snack - kitkat (small guy)

diet...day 5...well, today is a girlie day---pms! so it might be excusable that i TOTALLY cheated!
breakfast - fruit & cottage cheese
snack - white cheddar popcorn 290 calories, 4 kitkats & 2 sneakers (snack sizes)
but no dinner - just a drink
early to bed...cramps...didn't sleep well. woke up at 11 & couldn't sleep again until around 2a

~

taken from a facebook friend's wall post...

"before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem, first make sure that you are not, in fact, just surrounded by assholes" ~William Gibson

that should be the first thing on the "am i depressed" checklist.

~

day 3 continued...

afternoon merienda - unos with hazel. spinach salad with watermelon & blueberries, piece of bread & wildberry lemonade.

at least it was a salad!

dinner - ended up cooking. hawaiian pork chops & spinach salad. kinda healthy. at least it wasn't korean with rice!

~

diet...day 3

finishing off day 1...she ended up eating brunswick salad w/ chicken at white star

day 2 - was in LI picking up the car.
-breakfast - nothing
-merienda - chicken on a skewer from NY street vendor
-dinner - salad; salmon sashimi

day 3
-breakfast - fruit and cottage cheese
it's only 1015a - let's see if i can stay disciplined for the rest of the day

didn't make it to church

9a - list appt 69 clendenny
1030 - alex buyer
1230 - orit & aharon

maybe i can be done by 230 an relax for the rest of the day.

oh ye...GOT MY CAR and he's uber sexyyyyy!